What is a valentine?
Anyone that chooses to love you when you are at your worst.....
a friend, a spouse, family
I chose the above picture to represent LOVE because I had just birthed Max, Jeff was in zombie state and Jack was being so naughty. I remember thinking "what have I done..."
I really don't care for valentines day.
I want to be shown love because a sunrise was inspiration or I said something funny, not because you ran in Walgreens and an aisle of pink and red crap commanded you to love me.
I haven't always felt this way..
I loved it in elementary school!
The class party!
The 43 valentine cards in a shoebox!
(I went to public school=challenging student/teacher ratio)
As you can see, I was the same at age 8.
Hungry and not so girly....
Then, when I entered junior high, there was no shoebox.
I quickly realized my classmates were forced to love me in elementary.
Not so in junior high.
And therefore, I never received a pink, yellow, or red carnation....not even the friendly white.
High school.... I was never asked to the dance....or given a dang cupidgram.
But despite the many movies, books and TV shows confirming my feelings in my teen years..."I am not the girl they want to love"
I learned what "I love you" means:
Being disappointed but not leaving
Disagreeing but willing to agree to disagree
Hurting feelings but feeling the need to repair them
Enjoying silence without anxiety
Enjoying conversation on any topic because it is conversation with the one you love
Making an effort to let the other "feel" loved
Knowing that you both like each other even in the worst fight
Showing love to them on Valentines Day, as well as "you're gettin on my nerves" day.